tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1980420939450349702.post5262875730887250512..comments2023-05-23T16:00:29.272+08:00Comments on Ramblings of an ever changing mind...: You don't know meWicked Witch of the Westhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/00003458713764591195noreply@blogger.comBlogger27125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1980420939450349702.post-51789994323726143752010-09-18T19:13:23.812+08:002010-09-18T19:13:23.812+08:00Amnn, I totally agree - there are a lot of good pe...Amnn, I totally agree - there are a lot of good people out there on the net, and of course (as shown by me :P) even the very best and nicest people are on the net. It is just a matter of caution and reasonable common sense. While some can apply that, I think others are more vulnerable and so are reluctant to see even obvious warning signals.<br /><br />It is true that blogging can seem meaningless - and I did delete a lot of my old blog posts because of that - but then, it can also be a lot of fun, a nice way to meet people, and now that I have deactivated facebook, a great way to waste time and avoid ironing :D<br /><br />Since you insisted, here I am...:)<br /><br />Rene, thank you :) And yes, I totally agree - if we meet someone online in isolation from their 'real' life, then there should certainly be reserve. We can form strong and even trusting bonds on the net, but meeting is necessary to be sure it is 'real' (and yes, I have seen people who are old enough to know better - those in their 40s even - who have become engaged without any meeting!)Wicked Witch of the Westhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00003458713764591195noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1980420939450349702.post-3592093729094208382010-08-09T12:16:06.797+08:002010-08-09T12:16:06.797+08:00Excellent post...One should nevr form strong relat...Excellent post...One should nevr form strong relationships on virtual knowledge only..for that meeting personally is a must.Renuhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/18052079745061422542noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1980420939450349702.post-22448452961097839622010-06-27T19:21:55.105+08:002010-06-27T19:21:55.105+08:00hey but that doesn mean ppl arent true on the net ...hey but that doesn mean ppl arent true on the net ..!!!!!<br />there r a lot o genuin eppl out ther ..<br />besides if u be just a lil careful as to not get emotionally attched to n e one from the net ow does it make a diff ..?<br />u don have to stop blogging ,,<br />i was sik of it too it happens when u get stukin tat writers blok ..<br />blogging can sometimes seem meaningless <br />but its onli when u keep writing that u reliase how much veevry post id n how exciting every comments ..!!<br />i insist don stop blogging ,,,i have a very few blogger frns as it is cant afford to loose n e mmAmnn.......//1!https://www.blogger.com/profile/05742588096250133872noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1980420939450349702.post-40976633277043826592010-06-25T19:25:47.068+08:002010-06-25T19:25:47.068+08:00@Sulagna Oh yes, they definitely need to try and f...@Sulagna Oh yes, they definitely need to try and figure it out - and you are right, the problem is that it is the vulnerable who often fall prey. <br /><br />Interesting that you mention not minding anyone else's business - as, in some cases, it becomes necessary to protect others. For example, if some sleazy guy is luring very young women or girls. In this case, I think it would be irresponsible to take the approach of just ignoring if they are not specifically bothering you. Would you, say, let some guy alone if you felt he was a threat to Nil? I know I would not. <br /><br />I also believe there is a clear difference between someone perhaps misrepresenting themselves without risking others, and deliberately deceiving and aiming to get others closer. For example, if I wrote in this blog as a 24 year old with no kids, just about travels and work, perhaps a few little lies about clubs and all, but did not engage with people personally, that is fine. But, if I were to then add these people in facebook (still not revealing truth), on chat, or meet them in real still under such pretext, then that is very different.Wicked Witch of the Westhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00003458713764591195noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1980420939450349702.post-50865466292175727132010-06-23T13:10:06.101+08:002010-06-23T13:10:06.101+08:00ohh i completely agree with you...about crazy nuts...ohh i completely agree with you...about crazy nuts running around the net..i wish people would have more sense, use their brains a ,il more in figuring out whats true n whats not..and of course i really hope people dont mind anyone else's business...you know let people do their stuff, as long as someone is not troubling you, stay away...Cathy i guess young kids, insecure people , people who seek attention r the ones who mostly fall prey to such kinds!<br /><br />PS: I still wanna meet the beasties when you come :)sulagna https://www.blogger.com/profile/00416533568207227630noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1980420939450349702.post-292548082700264762010-06-22T20:33:21.957+08:002010-06-22T20:33:21.957+08:00@ Suruchi Thank you! :) I will run over and chec...@ Suruchi Thank you! :) I will run over and check it out for sure! :)Wicked Witch of the Westhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00003458713764591195noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1980420939450349702.post-58752615835144108072010-06-22T20:32:36.553+08:002010-06-22T20:32:36.553+08:00@Shalini Thank you! :) Trust is always an intere...@Shalini Thank you! :) Trust is always an interesting thing - and yes, especially online, where we lack the other cues...I must admit, I have trusted some people online (and still alive and well)...but do check out a few things.Wicked Witch of the Westhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00003458713764591195noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1980420939450349702.post-89032516510015886772010-06-22T20:26:24.690+08:002010-06-22T20:26:24.690+08:00@ санжог Hmm, I couldn't see myself avoiding a...@ санжог Hmm, I couldn't see myself avoiding altogether - I have met some great people online, who have also been great in real. And think it can be safe and entirely positive. There are some things though which can make us feel more assured (if someone has their schoolfriends and family on their facebook page with posts, photos etc) and some that should make us worry (no apparent irl friends, not using real name, not using real photo).<br /><br />It is definitely a little scary how much information there is 'out there' about us now - and able to be found so readily - from linkedin, facebook etc. Including our current location where this feature is used.Wicked Witch of the Westhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00003458713764591195noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1980420939450349702.post-50075597444040323002010-06-22T20:22:39.438+08:002010-06-22T20:22:39.438+08:00@Sid Well, I guess we all know to be wary, but al...@Sid Well, I guess we all know to be wary, but also can come to bond with and trust people, and feel that we know them. But of course, some people, while appearing very frank about their lives, are actually deliberately making people think they are other than what they are.Wicked Witch of the Westhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00003458713764591195noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1980420939450349702.post-65986132400593047612010-06-19T23:19:54.270+08:002010-06-19T23:19:54.270+08:00Hey Cathy...
There is a cute little award waaaaaaa...Hey Cathy...<br />There is a cute little award waaaaaaaaaaiting for you on my blog....<br />Please get your cute bum there and receive it...I am kinda tired holding it now...;-)<br />Hugs:-)Suruchihttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08352785820589232058noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1980420939450349702.post-8623858575269254732010-06-09T11:01:33.048+08:002010-06-09T11:01:33.048+08:00Thought-provoking!!
And true..."trust" ...Thought-provoking!! <br />And true..."trust" is just a given these days...specially online...<br />Nice post! :)Shalinihttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15203300200722997722noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1980420939450349702.post-54347866571200117042010-06-09T05:28:19.706+08:002010-06-09T05:28:19.706+08:00It's a paradox isn't it, whom to trust. I...It's a paradox isn't it, whom to trust. I think personally it's just best not try to contact or try to be personal with anyone on the internet. It's good for them and it's good for me.<br /><br />In general more you entangle yourself with some one more chances of getting hurt. It's a risk we all take, but like you say even it might feel bad its better to play safe.<br /><br />I still don't get how some really nice women fall for a guy who is really a piece of work and vice a versa. Some things just go beyond logic.<br /><br />Oh BTW as long as any of you are on social networks and you are using it for personal use...you are never safe no matter how good you are at hiding stuff.<br /><br />and also to all the people who are used to pirated softwares ( remember nobody gives things for free). Think about it, you spend months cracking a software and you just give it out for free! there is a always a catch.санжогhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15564112676679183143noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1980420939450349702.post-81296920674473627562010-06-04T02:20:01.408+08:002010-06-04T02:20:01.408+08:00Hmmm dont know what to say... these are things i t...Hmmm dont know what to say... these are things i thght any guy/gal who comes online shud knoSidhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02618983084113983284noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1980420939450349702.post-40540779723422211142010-06-03T20:17:30.584+08:002010-06-03T20:17:30.584+08:00@Sakshi Well, I think this shows just how really...@Sakshi Well, I think this shows just how really anyone can be taken in by someone determined and smooth enough...the girl from the US was highly intelligent and very successful in her work...and yet went so far. And, thank you :)<br /><br />@Oxymoron Thank you :) And so right...even where people have no intention of deceit, you are only seeing a certain percentage of who they are, whether online or in real life...and when someone seeks to deceive it is very difficult to detect if they are reasonably clever...especially without the visual cues/body language. Yes, must add not sharing personal details to the list along with not planning to meet them - not addresses, not school name etc.<br /><br />@Laureen Yes he is lol...and I'm sure I did....one was the girl who lives near you (I remember I showed you her photo)...the odd thing is this same girl is back on his list even...maybe he will get his money and green card yet! Will remind you on chat :DWicked Witch of the Westhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00003458713764591195noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1980420939450349702.post-1901087060249363772010-06-03T10:37:58.373+08:002010-06-03T10:37:58.373+08:00OMG...he is????? No way. AND...you didnt tell me a...OMG...he is????? No way. AND...you didnt tell me about the two that met him!!!Love is Green!https://www.blogger.com/profile/17949225382645668532noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1980420939450349702.post-45552332251563298682010-06-03T02:10:57.586+08:002010-06-03T02:10:57.586+08:00hey...
interesting post...indeed one cannot trust ...hey...<br />interesting post...indeed one cannot trust what they see online....one needs to be very careful these days and must avoid sharing personal details....Oxymoronhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04218564425878891301noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1980420939450349702.post-48406403069511289712010-06-03T01:46:07.338+08:002010-06-03T01:46:07.338+08:00Hmmmm, should I really be saying anything at all? ...Hmmmm, should I really be saying anything at all? good post Cathy. :)Sakshihttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13560563322184558228noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1980420939450349702.post-80800449192248524552010-06-02T17:53:56.879+08:002010-06-02T17:53:56.879+08:00@Suruchi Yes, I remember it well :) And have enc...@Suruchi Yes, I remember it well :) And have encountered it myself...through the 'Feed a Child' application on facebook of all things...no damage was done, but for some reason a woman with a daughter of working age was posing as being in her 20s and flirting with a 20-something guy (oh, he is really good looking and one of the nicest guys I know...it just (seriously just...maybe I am dumb) occurred to me that maybe this was her entire reason!)<br /><br />Do be afraid. I am not called Wicked or Evil for nothing :P Of course, you know Harsh online who knows me in real, but then...it is possible he is just my wiser, more moderate alter ego. Or he could be keeping secrets for me...I know, I have done that...<br /><br />And thank you :D (of course, you could just be saying that out of fear now that my evil is truly revealed :P)Wicked Witch of the Westhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00003458713764591195noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1980420939450349702.post-71056548654335939332010-06-02T17:46:55.226+08:002010-06-02T17:46:55.226+08:00@Queen Thank you :) That means a lot, from you :)...@Queen Thank you :) That means a lot, from you :)Wicked Witch of the Westhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00003458713764591195noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1980420939450349702.post-11924697448715492162010-06-02T17:46:24.338+08:002010-06-02T17:46:24.338+08:00@Shayon Well, you are still going to have to meet ...@Shayon Well, you are still going to have to meet me. I just want you to live in fear of it mwahaha :D Go on, stalk me, it will make me feel important :P Although, of course, that reminds me to mention...some people will maintain the same persona over blogs, social networking sites, even on chat or phone...so the sites may all tally up...so it is still important to be alert to inconsistencies, and also to look for obvious signs of someone who is not being honest...lack of 'real' friends, few photos of them etc.<br /><br />So be afraid, be very afraid :DWicked Witch of the Westhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00003458713764591195noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1980420939450349702.post-20055060326074703032010-06-02T17:42:55.971+08:002010-06-02T17:42:55.971+08:00@Nickelo Thank you :) And yes, I totally agree wi...@Nickelo Thank you :) And yes, I totally agree with you on 'why pretend' (and I think we would all be a lot safer if everyone did believe in karma...some people would behave so differently)...to be praised for something you are not...or to bond with people only by pretending...just not for me. I would rather have limited people who know than many who liked my invention.Wicked Witch of the Westhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00003458713764591195noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1980420939450349702.post-32927418493750657332010-06-02T17:40:14.924+08:002010-06-02T17:40:14.924+08:00@ Renu, that is exactly it. And, while most peopl...@ Renu, that is exactly it. And, while most people are good and mostly as they seem (and I say this having met about 20 friends off the web), there is always that risk that someone is not. I think that the important thing is to know how to protect ourselves - meeting in public, being aware of inconsistencies etc. That way, we can enjoy meeting the majority of great people, while being safe from that minority.Wicked Witch of the Westhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00003458713764591195noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1980420939450349702.post-19894475496042145852010-06-02T17:12:40.653+08:002010-06-02T17:12:40.653+08:00Brutally honest Cathy!
I spoke about such fraudule...Brutally honest Cathy!<br />I spoke about such fraudulent profile users a few months back, when I had been duped myself by a seemingly harmless girl living in the States and was so very friendly...As it had turned out, the pics she was using were not hers and the gurl after many months of communicating through facebook uploads completely vanished in thin air...<br /><br />There is lot of weird stuff going on over the internet and caution n discretion to personal matters is the only key...at least unless you are surer...<br />As for you...OMG...u have now made me really nervous about u!;-)<br />Now there has to be some credit given to knowing and getting to understand someone also...!<br />You are an awesome friend and shall remain:-)Suruchihttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08352785820589232058noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1980420939450349702.post-392706669034396262010-06-02T16:38:33.168+08:002010-06-02T16:38:33.168+08:00Well said!Well said!Queenmatraihttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10028135290830157457noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1980420939450349702.post-29210788033818670452010-06-02T13:48:33.900+08:002010-06-02T13:48:33.900+08:00lolz! Well, and to think of it, I had agreed to me...lolz! Well, and to think of it, I had agreed to meet you up during your next India tour, without even hunting you down on each of the social networking sites and the mighty Google! Sheesh! I guess I gotta get back to work and find out every guy (or girl?) you ever slept with!! :-pShayonhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09794928062426104784noreply@blogger.com